We often hear cliches such as, ‘Life is what you make it,’ ‘You get out what you put in,’ but have you ever stopped and actually thought about these concepts? Have you taken a moment to look at your life, and consider that you have created your entire reality? You are the one telling the story. Yes – there’s numerous situations in life, completely out of your control. But you are always responsible for your reaction to these events or people.

Let’s put this into a scenario. I’ve chosen a gym example but this could easily be a workplace, a parent group or any social event:

You walk into a new gym class. Of course there’s some element of nerves or trepidation, it’s a new environment for you, full of new adult people.

Now, how do you react to the strangers around you? Do you:
A. Immediately tell yourself they’re all fitter than you and that you’re going to look foolish?
B. Look at what they’re wearing and feel out of the group because of what you’re wearing?
C. Look at what they’re wearing and think, “Phew, at least I’ve got my activewear right!
D. Think, this is scary but exciting. I’m going to be a fit/strong/healthy person too! These guys are inspiring!

Let’s take this a step further, look at who you perceive as the ‘fittest’ person in the room. Do you:
A. Think she looks like a stuck up bitch
B. Get angrier at yourself for coming because you’ll never look like that
C. Think you’d look like that too if it wasn’t for work/kids/money, etc.
D. Look at them in awe and respect for the time they’ve committed to their health and fitness

Now imagine each of these scenarios and fast forward 6 months. Depending on your response to the above, you’ve either:
A. given up the gym, or
B. You enter each session with negative thoughts about other people in the group but you’re determined to get your workout done
C. You enter each session with negative self talk about your performance or what you look like and spend the session mentally beating yourself up but you have to be there because you look the way you look
D. You are happy, with improved health and fitness levels. You get excited about getting to the gym and surrounding yourself with like-minded people

Can you see now how a simple shift in perspective can change the outcomes in your life, and certainly your level of happiness and fulfilment? Now apart from the person who gave up the gym, the other 3 responses above could end up with similar physical outcomes. But only one is happy and fulfilled. And that, simply put, is the person who chose to be happy. If you choose to find a bitch, I guarantee you’ll find one. If you choose to see an inspiring, determined person, that is who you’ll see.

Now I chose a gym scenario here, because gyms are places that take a lot of people out of their comfort zone. And the way we react when we’re uncomfortable is a great starting point for turning your perspective around. Next time you’re in an uncomfortable situation, have a listen to the way you’re talking to yourself, now remember you can change this talk!
Give it a go, you’ll be amazed how the people in your life will change, and so will your mindset!

Things will still go wrong, you’ll just be far better equipped to dealing with them and moving forward!